The Power of Vision: Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You

Impaired Vision

When I was younger I would look in the mirror and see only “imperfections.” My gap, lack of curves, my “nappy” natural hair. I began to weigh my worth based on my physical features, and unfortunately, that wasn’t the only worldly thing that I tied my worth to. I also found value in what others had to say about me. I was “too sweet, too sensitive, annoying, too loud, too quite, not adventurous enough.” Not only did that lead me to a vast amount of insecurities, but it also drove me to constantly change myself to match whatever beauty trend was popular at the time; it lead me to try and accommodate everyone’s opinion of who and how I should be. I looked for my worth in just about anything but God.

As I got older I found confidence in comparison. I began to hang around a worldly crowd, and tried to find my worth in the attention that I was getting, the way that I dressed, and the things that I did. Although all of these aspect were worldly, in comparison to the crowd that I was hanging around, “I wasn’t that bad”. I constantly compared my sins to others, and because I felt like my sinful actions weren’t as bad as theirs, I began to feel validated in my sin. Compared to “them” I was an amazing person and there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I no longer cared about other’s opinions of me.

Although these were two different phases in my life, the common denominator was that I was seeing myself as the world saw me. The scale that I used to find value within myself and to justify my actions, was broken, because it changed with each coming trend. I measured my beauty according to current beauty waves, but I could never keep up with those trends because they were constantly changing. I would catch up on a trend, fill up on momentary happiness, then the trend would change, and all of sudden I was empty again; I constantly felt like my worth was fleeting. When it came to comparing myself, I used the world’s standard to judge my actions. “Compared to so and so” I was an amazing person. What this did was push me further into denial of self, and I didn’t have clarity about who I was or the posture of my heart. 

Through God’s Lens 

The problem with this common denominator was that I wasn’t seeing myself the way that God saw me; I was seeing myself the way that the world saw me. The things of this world are constantly changing, which means that the standard is always fluctuating. The world tells us to change so that we can be loved, while God tells us that He loves us regardless of what we are struggling with, and that He will fill us with joy, peace, and love. Through God’s vision, we are able to find our true value and worth. Unlike the standards of the world, God’s word never changes, so the value that we find through His word will never bring about fleeting happiness, but instead, everlasting joy.

When I began to submit myself to the Lord I learned that we should be confident about our outer appearance because God took the time to intricately create each of us, down to each strand of hair on our heads. Which means the way that we look will always be “in style” because God made us so. The most important lesson that I learned about beauty, is that beauty has absolutely nothing to do with outer appearance, but instead, everything to do with the nature of our hearts. So yes, we should love the skin that we are in, but we should always remember that our beauty truly lies within our hearts. 

God judges us based on the nature of our hearts, not by comparison of what others around us are doing. We can lie to others about who we are internally, we can even fool ourselves through comparison, but we cannot lie to God. He’s always able to see our heart’s posture. Seeing ourselves the way that the Lord sees us shows us that we are indeed beautiful, worthy, valued, and full of purpose, but it also helps us to see in which areas of our lives we are broken. When we are able to truly see our brokenness we can submit it to the Lord and be redeemed through His love. Seeing ourselves like God sees us allows us to be open to correction so that we can be more like Him.

Truths to Remember 

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalms 139:14 ESV

“But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."” 1 Samuel 16:7 ESV

“For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.” James 1:23-24 ESV

“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 ESV

“But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."” 1 Samuel 16:7 ESV

Meet Alicja Oshiokpekhai: LYBM Voices Coordinator


Alicja Oshiokpekhai is a 24 year old graduate from Texas Woman’s University. She was born in Germany to a German mother and a Nigerian father, and moved to the United States in 2001. She is an inspirational blogger, and serves on the team as our LYBM Voices coordinator! In her free time she enjoys writing, reading, learning, and growing with her community.